Old Flames

Earlier this week I had quite the interesting surprise. My ex-boyfriend (not sure why I still call him that...it's been three years but still) Jonathan sent me a text message. You can imagine my surprise considering he never talks to me because his girlfriend doesn't allow it. Not sure why because again it's been three years and she invited me to his birthday party this past summer (and of course I went to torture her looking smoking hot if I do say so my self ha!) Let me preface this blog with the fact that Jonathan and I broke up for no reason other than we had grown apart. I think we were both young, and just comfortable in a relationship and really didn't want to try dating anyone else. We had been through so much together yet we didn't really want to date each other. We went through his brother dying and my mom being incredibly sick, and finally passing away a few months after we broke up. Jon finally had the balls to finally break it off and while I acted like I was so incredibly hurt, I really wasn't because I knew this was going to be the best thing for us both.

Now to today...so the text message informs me that he had just been dumped on his ass. My initial response?? Laughed my ass off! Mean I know, but that's what my gut told me to do. He is so distraught over losing this girl and all I can do is giggle...so we text for a few minutes so I can get the details of what's going on. Then I tell him that I will call him later after I get out of school and we can talk. So I did and he was very appreciative of that. Still a little awkward listening to how he feels like a family memeber died and all of this...hello did you feel like that when we split??? While I have NO romantic feelings whatsoever for him and I am beyond happier with Dave than I ever was with Jon, you still don't wnat to hear that someone was better than you ha! So then he called me last night...we probably talked for at least a good half hour. Now Dave knows all of this...he was sitting on the couch and he had already heard the story. We talked again and I just gave him the best advice I could...he was like wow that's really good advice...I like that. I said yeah I learned all of that for myself when YOU dumped ME on my ass! He goes geez so in a way I ended up helping myself!! Guess so! He was asking me things like what if she wants to know what I am doing with other girls...I said well what did you tell me?? Then I told him to LIE and save the drama because when he tells her she will flip out even though SHE dumped him. I also got a nice dig in when he was talking about how it would be hard if she was talking to another guy and I said yeah try LIVING with the person you broke up with while he sits on the couch talking to this NEW girl for hours while you sit next to him watching TV...he informed me that he was very sorry for doing all of that stuff to me and he was really shitty. I however, did not inform him that I more than made up for that in past mistakes of my own! No need to put salt in his wound by telling him I wasn't the world's best girlfriend all the time!!

So now that you have the story what's a girl to do? I have a feeling that he will want to call and talk at least for the first few weeks because he doesn't have any family up here and I was the closest thing to family that he has now that she is gone. He mentioned getting together for lunch once and I think he just wants a comfort friend. I know there is nothing between us so I"m not concerned about that at all. He also told me that if she hadn't made him erase my number out of his phone and forbid him to talk to me, that this wouldn't have been our first real phone call in three years. He explained to her that we would always be friends because we hadn't just dated...we had lived together and literally been through hell together! She said no, he respected that knowing that I would always talk to him if the day ever came and that it wouldn't be awkward (his words not mine...I still found it a little odd that he came to me for consoling!!) I explained that I inturn respected his relationship and said that is why I never called...tried to save him some drama. This by the way is also the girl that called me a fucking bitch from pump 6 while I was on pump 3 at 7-11 getting gas...no I did not even see her she just up and came with the name calling. So you see why I save him the drama.

Got off track sorry...so do I befriend him again and include him once in a while or just leave him all the way out? I have no animocity towards him and it's not like I want to hang out with him every single day. But if he wants to do lunch as friends what do I say? I know that if I ask Dave if it would bother him, he is going to say no...because Dave isn't a jealous person (no matter how much I would like him to have just an ounce of jealousy), but how do I know if it really will bother him? More than likely I wouldn't go to lunch alone because I wouldn't want Dave to feel awkward, although inviting him might make him feel even more awkward...I dunno!

So ladies what are your thoughts...