Friday, September 19, 2008

Aruba, Jamaica, Bermuda, Bahama...Come on pretty mama

Ok we are stumped!! Dave and I have no idea where to go on a honeymoon!! First of all here's where I disappeared to this past week...Chrissy my wonderful bridesmaid that is know the one due 6 days before the wedding?? Yeah she is having the baby NOW! She has toxemia and they put her in the hospital on Tuesday. We just got back and they had broke her water and given her the patosin (the medicine that I cannot spell!) to help speed her along. So to be helpful and take some stress off of her, I have planned her lessons for the next few weeks and gotten everything at school done with and taken care of. Now back to honeymooning!

We cannot decide where to go. I always wanted to go to somewhere warm and tropical and we are going to go in December while I am on Christmas break. So we were just talking about it and Dave says "put it on the blog". Ok, now he is using my blog for his own purposes haha! But seriously, where do you all think a good honeymoon spot would be? Where did some of you go...or where have you always wanted to go?

I wouldn't mind Hawaii although I know how expensive everything over there is. I would like to try out one of those all inclusive resorts, but seriously I know I'm not going to want to lay on the beach in a bikini (I might have lost weight but we are not bikini ready by any means!) and drink mai tais all matter how appealing that sounds! I know you can go off of some of the resorts, but I don't want to be in a new country and be all nervous you know. Dave thought of Europe but then he said it would be colder in the winter time so we would have to wait for summer. I thought of going to Disney World...then I wasn't super impressed because it's mostly the same rides and then there's Epcot and the Animal World and stuff. But I don't know that I would like all the other stuff. So if that's the case, we could just go back to Disney Land and then go to the beaches down around San Diego or up by Carmel and Montery, but then Dave said he thought those places burned. So really we have no idea! And neither one of us have any real expectations for the honeymoon. It's not like one of us is saying oh well I want to be able to snorkle so we know it needs to be beach like. We have no idea at all!

So any ideas would be greatly appreciated. Dave would love you all a very long time...and I will too :)

Tuesday, September 09, 2008

A Precious Moment

My friend Jeremy was in town this weekend. He comes down every weekend for the Hot Air Balloon Races and then he volunteers in my classroom on that Friday. He usually spends from Thursday to Sunday with us and he stays here at our house. A little background on Jeremy...he was hit by a car when he was 6 by a drunk driver. He has learned how to do a lot on his own but he is a little behind if you will. He manages to drive himself to Reno and we have taught him how to get himself to the balloon races and he has really come a long way since I met him almost ten years ago. Back to the story...

Jeremy brought my birthday present with him since this was the first time I had seen him since my birthday. He lives on his own and doesn't have a ton of money but he always makes sure to get me a present. I tell him year after year that he can just call me but he insists. And for the very first time in my life I am glad that he insisted!

I thought Jeremy would enjoy going to my dress fitting with me. He got to see me in my dress and he thought that was really cool. Well that meant he also got to witness my major meltdown. See I was already running late when I first got home. I got home at 5:30 and we had to be there at 6. We had a wedding present that had come in the mail and of course I took the time to open that...but not Jeremy's present. Then we go to the store...I have my meltdown...we come home. I still don't open my present. I realize that I forgot all the shoes at the store! In my disappointed leaving, I forgot to pick up all the girls' shoes. So we go back to the store and then we pick up some dinner real quick. When we get home, I'm obviously sad...still not sure what to do about my dress and so on. I'm talking to my sister on the phone and I see Jeremy's present sitting there. I figure I better open it, plus presents are always a good cheer up right??

As I said, Jeremy doesn't have a lot of extra money. So he does a lot of shopping for birthdays and Christmas at yard sales. Like I said it's the thought that counts...not where he gets stuff. Well I start opening my present and I see this board. On top of the board are a CD that he made me with a birthday song and a pair of scooby doo socks. I like Scooby Doo but I can't for the life of me get Jeremy to understand that I won't wear Scooby Doo stuff...I am an adult after all! Of course the socks were purchased at a yard sale and bless his heart they have a whole in them. So I focus on the looks like something I've seen before. It looks like the boards my mom used to work on. You see my mom used to draw on cutting boards or boards like the one I was looking at and she would woodburn the picture into them and then paint them. When she got good at it, she started cutting things out of wood and making them. Back to where I was...this thought is in my head and I place my hand under the board to turn it over. I swear to god it felt like slow motion! I could feel the woodburned image on the other side and I started thinking he must have made me something like my mom used to make. Or maybe it's a sign he got...but deep down I knew what it was...I flipped that board over and looked to the bottom right corner where I knew her initials would be and sure enough...THERE WERE MY MOMS INITIALS!!!

I'm on the phone with my sister when I start looking at it and I just start bawling. I'm already emotional from the dress stuff and this just pushed me over the edge. I looked at Jeremy and in a very emotional voice I ask him where he got this...I'm thinking my mom made it for him, then I realize that wouldn't be's a little girl. Then I think that someone gave it to him to give to me...knowing that my mom made it. You all want to know what Jeremy's response was??

"I bought it at a yard sale. It's precious moments isn't it?"

You see Scooby Doo isn't the only thing Jeremy likes to buy for me. He also makes sure I get something Precious Moments. I used to collect them and think they were really cute. Again...I no longer have room to collect them and I have kind of outgrown liking them like I used to, but Jeremy always gets me something precious moments. All he saw was a precious moment girl and he bought it for me. He had absolutely no idea that my mom had made it. Not a clue. So I start bawling some more! I'm asking my sister who my mom could have made this for and I'm frantically asking Jeremy what yard sale he bought it at! Dave can clearly see that Jeremy is getting the wrath (or what sounded like the wrath because I was bawling and frantically asking him all these questions) of the dress alterations so he comes over and looks down at the board in my lap. He looks at Jeremy and said oh Jeremy...her mom made that. Jeremy is confused as all hell, I'm crying, my sister is stunned and Dave is over in the corner trying to hold himself together because you know he is rather sensitive haha! Once I pulled myself together long enough to listen to Jeremy, he informed me that as soon as he saw that board he knew he had to buy it because it was precious moments and he knows how much I like those. He never even saw my mom's initals on the bottom and wouldn't have even known what they were if he had seen them. The whole coincidence of it all was just too overwhelming for me.

I waited so long to open the present...I kept putting it off. Then it came on a night when I would have loved to talk to my mom, to get her advice on what to do on my dress. And the fact that Jeremy had no idea made it that much sweeter. I mean had he known it still would have been sweet, but not was that much better. And would you like to know the greatest coincidence of all...look at what the little girl is doing in the picture...

How do you think I felt at that moment...when it rains it pours right! There I was standing in a big old puddle and here she was telling me she was there and it was going to be ok. I'm not a super religious person. I don't know exactly where I stand on the whole signs from above thing. I would love to believe that they really happen but then there is the skeptical side of me that thinks it's just impossible. But when a sign like this slaps you in the's a little hard not to believe. Again, the fact that Jeremy had no idea shows me that I was meant to have that board. I needed to open it on the night I did...that's why he didn't send it to me. That's why I didn't open it when I first got home...I didn't need it then. I needed it when I was sad and things with the wedding weren't going my way. I needed my mom to tell me that she was here, she was going to be here on the day and she would see every single part of my wedding.

So for now, I have to truly treasure all of Jeremy's yardsale presents. He never knew just how much of a "precious moment" he would give me this year for my birthday!

Major Meltdown

Thursday was not a good day around my house. You know the book Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day...yeah it should have been my name instead of Alexanders!

Thursday I had my dress fitting. I was nervous, excited and a whole bundle of emotions. I was nervous because I was going to be seeing myself in my dress the way I will see myself in 45 days (not that I'm counting or anything!). For some reason that just made me feel like it was so much more real. I was excited because as you all know I've been blogging on Tuesday Tummy Tuck and working to lose weight. So far I've lost 35 lbs and so I was excited to see how the dress was going to look on me all pinned up and skinny like :)

That all came to a screeching halt when she pinned the dress. Here I am before any can tell it's big on me

Then she started pinning and my heart started you can see my face where clearly it is a fake smile!

And here the dress is all pinned can see that clearly I have lost lots of weight! YAY!!

Then came the bombshell! Since I had lost weight, it was going to be $291 to alter my dress! That was as much as my dress was in the first place. You are supposed to pay for the alterations right then well I had no idea that it was going to be that much...I budgeted like $50-$100 for alterations...not an entire new dress! So needless to say I was sad, I was pissed and I didn't know what to do. I felt like I was being punished for losing the weight. I feel great and I feel like I look great...I'm not perfect yet, but I'm happy with myself and then it was like well hell I might as well gain all the damn weight back! Definitely not going to do that so I guess I have to eat $291!!

I tried to figure out if I wanted to take it to another shop...but if I did and they messed it up I don't know what I would do...not sure if I could get another dress here in time and I would be stuck paying for it. If I left it at David's Bridal and they messed up, they are responsible for paying for it! Then I had the idea to trade it in for a smaller size. I ordered my dress in a size 16. They say that for every 20lbs you lose you go down a dress size and by they I mean David's Bridal. So technically I would be about a size 12 (I'm five lbs off of losing 40lbs!). I tried on the 12 and it was way too zipped but I wouldn't have been able to breathe at all. Then I tried on a 14 and it fit funny! It was too big around my boobs and it fit tight across my stomach. So what sense does that make?? You see how much she is taking in on the sides, but the next size down didn't fit right either! SO ANNOYING!!!!

So for my own peace of mind, I decided to just leave it where it is and have them do the alterations. I'm going to talk to the manager and find out if my dress was really a size 16...I'm starting to think there was a possibility that it was cut wrong and it was really a larger size. I mean how do they take that much in on the sides and stuff and the next size smaller dress doesn't even fit right? Makes absolutely no sense. Plus I was never told how much alterations could be...I knew I would have to pay for alterations but I was informed when I went back in on Thursday night that I should have been told an approximation of alterations.

So that was my dress meltdown! I was able to come home that night and find something that sent my night into an even bigger emotional spin...but that you can read about in the next post!! :)


Yeah I have been seriously MIA!! School started and that meant that hell started around my parts. I haven't even had a chance to blog about all of that!! So I will start there and then we will go through wedding stuff and such.

School this year is going to be a challenge to say the least! I have some kiddos that have some major behavior problems and then some kiddos that struggle with reading. I like working with the kids that are struggling because it is so nice to see them make growth...behaviors are only cool if they can be fixed! Kids that steal on the first day of school make my life a living hell. Kids that blatently look you in the face and laugh at you when they get in trouble...not so cool! Dislike greatly! So needless to say it's going to be a tough year especially trying to do last minute things for the wedding!

Wedding planning is still going. We managed to get so much done over the past month. We ordered all of our favors and all of our last minute things...guest book, napkins, ring pillow, sand bottles and sand. We just need to order our toasting glasses and our cake stuff and then we are totally done. We finished our wedding slideshow (which turned out awesome!) and I finished Dave's wedding present. It's a photo book and I love it. I cried making it! It is going to be the perfect present to give him!

So there's the I will update you on the major dress is worthy of a post all it's own!