The wonders of a mom

So I promised a blog and a good one you shall have. Let me start by saying that Dave's mom and I used to get along really well. Then she started not being as friendly and there are some things that I quite frankly just don't like about the way she is a mom. Now, not being a mom my self yet, maybe I shouldn't judge. But common sense tells me that all one would need is common sense to know that she does not make the best choices in the realm of mommyhood.

The way to make this blog make the most sense is to have it done by each day of our trip. Then you can clearly see the progression of yuck that I endured for five days.

WEDNESDAY:
We are driving down to Vegas to stay the night and break our 12 hour drive up. She calls about half way there. She informs me that she is really excited because she got Dave's graduation present and she can't wait to tell me. But of course I have to keep is a secret. So I agree. (Now I don't believe that I have previously vented about her telling me that I can wait to give him his graduation party when they get here because they dont' feel the need to come to his graduation on time...they are waiting to come to a wedding a few weeks later and do it then...just understand that this annoyed me and I will be more than happy to blog about that next) She informs me that she bought him a digital camera. OOOHHH and with all the accessories you could possibly need. Hmm why am I suddenly trying to control the monster that wants to jump from my chest and strangle her??? Because in the converstation we had about the graduation party I told her that I wanted to buy him a NICE DIGITAL CAMERA for graduation. What the hell?!?! I said well jeez I'm sure glad you told me because I was going to buy him one REMEMBER! She said oh well he's getting it tomorrow when you guys get here so you would have known then. SUPER...I dislike you day one!

THURSDAY:
We arrive in the early afternoon at go to her house. She of course gives Dave a big old hug and then says hi to Eric. Yes is something missing from that sentence...yeah ME. She never said a word to me. I was there for an hour and a half before she spoke to me...not even a hi how was your trip. And only then when she spoke to me did she tell me that we really didn't need to go out to lunch we could just eat there. If I wanted to eat there I would have...I wanted lunch from Rally's! Jump forward to Thursday night. Kayla, Dave's sister wanted to take us out since Eric was with us. Well she has a son and asked if her stepdad would watch him. He said yes, apparently talked to Dave's mom and his mom said she was too tired and didn't want to watch the baby. LIAR! She wanted to go to the casino and gamble. and no I'm not jumping to conclusions...we made her tell us the truth. She is too tired to watch the 3 year old (well actually that was just an excuse) but she isn't too tired to go out and gamble. Your son is in town and you can't even spend time with him...gambling is more important. SUPER...my dislike is turning into disgust. My mom would never ever have done something like that. (Disclaimer...I could vent about this entire topic for pages...I will spare you but please know this is my biggest pet peeve with her)

FRIDAY:
We go golfing. Kayla and I drive the boys in the golf carts and soak up some sun. The mom calls and asks what we want for dinner. I said let's do something simple...nothing too big how about hamburgers. Somehow she agrees (she argued at first...she makes nothing simple) and she tells me to have us all meet her at the grandparents house since that's where we are eating. I pass on this message please keep this in mind it will make sense later. So we go to dinner at the grandparents and everyone is having just a fine time. No she hasn't really talked to me and only forces converstation if I keep at it and keep making her talk. But no just nice conversation because she likes me. So Kayla again wants to take us out (I could really care less because I don't like going out I"m boring) and no she wont' watch Daunte. The excuse today...we were mean to her and ignored her all day. HELLO IT'S KINDA HARD TO IGNORE SOMEONE WHO ISN'T WITH YOU! We were golfing all day and she was working. So she storms home. We go over there for Kayla to get clothes to stay at the grandparents...and the mom is in the room crying because we are so mean to her. Whatever she is the one ignorning us and not being friendly...well at least not to me. SUPER...why not act like you are 3? Dislike...disgust...get over yourself.

SATURDAY:
Here is the big day. We go to Mexico and she is meeting us there. I tried to call her and she didn't answer. Not two minutes later she got there...I said very nicely...Oh I just tried to call you and see where you were...I was snapped at...I don't have my phone and not another word was said to me. You can imagine that by today I really could care less if we ever visit here again...I mean I don't feel comfortable or welcome like I used to. See it hasn't always been this way. So we wanted to take Eric to this place called the Green Door. It's a bar so no kids allowed. Well guess what mom wouldn't take Daunte AGAIN! She gave 50 excuses and I just blew up. She goes just take him in there for 5 minutes and I said no...it's our vacation and you aren't going to tell us what we can and can't do. Then Kayla said she would go home and I said that's cool you can't even hang out with us. So the grandparents took Daunte for us and we stayed in Mexico for an hour. Then we get home and all of a sudden she is all keen to take Daunte so we can go out...why you ask? Because Kayla asked one of her friends to watch Daunte and she said sure...well the mom doesn't want to look bad does she?? SUPER...can you be anymore selfish???

SUNDAY:
This one might take the cake. Her birthday is tomorrow and I thought it would be nice if we took her to dinner. MY IDEA...MY NICENESS! So we all agree to go. We get to the restaurant and there is a 40 min wait because we are a party of 8. They check the other restaurant and then come back. We sit down and the grandma says who's name is it under? I answered Under mine. She asked again...I answered again. She looked right through me and said David whose name are we listening for? I shouted rather loudly back at her and said it is under my name...ANGIE! Then she goes oh well go and see how far up the list we are. I said NO. I said I told you guys that there were only 2 couples in front of us and that we only had to wait so long because we were a big party. We didn't even wait for a total of 20 min. We were expecting to pay for his mom...we got stuck paying for EVERYONE. Good thing they messed up 5 out of 8 orders or it would have been twice as expensive. So Dave and I split it in half and we go outside. Guess who gets told thank you 15 times from everyone...NOT ME! Not a single thank you until they said it to Dave so many times that he goes Angie too she paid for half and it was her idea. Then I got a mumbled thank you. SUPER...now it's both mom and grandma and I can't wait to leave.

So that was my story...I can't fathom this woman because my mom was incredibly selfless and his mom is incredibly selfish. Dave always acts like it doesn't bother him because he's used to it but deep down I know it hurts his feelings. And he said that's why we hadn't gone back for a while. We used to go often last year we went once. He said he didn't like that I felt uncomfortable and that I didn't like being there he said that made him feel bad.

So folks what's your advice??